Author: Mr. Sunshine

Well, hello there friends!

And a very happy Monday to you!

And a very happy official last week of July too!

Yes, you did read that right!

It is the last official week of the seventh month of the year!

WHATTTTTTT?!

Anyway, time to get on to this week’s post.

The past several weeks I have touched on mental health and how important it is for us to be aware of that state of energy in ourselves and how we can intentionally set aside time for ourselves to help recharge that capacity to make sure we are staying healthy—both emotionally and physically.

And this weekend while watching the Olympics, I saw a few commercials from the P&G brand that advertised the slogan, lead with love.

And that slogan stuck with me and from the moment I saw that commercial, I knew that this was exactly what I was going to blog about.

And here we are!

Grab your morning coffee, juice, or whatever side-kick beverage you like to enjoy in the early mornings because here we go!

I promise to keep it short and sweet.

So, how do you lead with love?

Well, here are three simple ways that I lead with love.

I share these with you in hopes that you will be able to lead with love in your life this coming week and the weeks after.

Volunteer at a nonprofit or entity that is near and dear to your heart.

-This is something that is so easy to do these days, especially with all of the locations around the area that are always in need of volunteers with fresh faces to help out. Animal shelters, nursing homes, hospitals, theaters, non-profits–there are so many options, so there is no excuse on not being able to find one that will fulfill your heart. Here is a quick link for those located in Lancaster on some places you can share your energy as a volunteer!

For those not local to the area, just Google “places to volunteer” with your city and you should find some very fast, easy results. And while I technically don’t actually volunteer (at least not at the moment), I am currently running miles and raising funds for a non-profit very close to my heart–The Conner M. Holland Foundation.

Volunteer Opportunities in Lancaster County, PA | LancasterPA.com

Smile at the stranger.

-This is a simple action that can make all the difference. More often than not, we tend to be a world and society that likes to put judgment on others before actually getting to know them. So, knock that mentality out of your brain and start to lead with love by sharing some kindness with the stranger you don’t know.

We have no idea what these people are going through, so who are we to make judgements about them without actually knowing the full story. Exactly. Don’t do it. Be the change and the one who decides to break the status quo by going against the energy of judgment and hatred our society likes to feed upon.

Spend time with family and those you love and make sure you show appreciation for them.

-Once again, this is a very simple action that we can all take in our lives. Last year, during the pandemic and living in isolation through several months of the 2020 year, it became very clear to me that time spent with my family and loved ones was good for my soul. And, living in 2021 with several elements of the pandemic still sprinkled in and learning so much more about my own mental health and what I need to recharge, it has become even more evident to myself that time spent with my family and loved ones is crucial. We need to make sure we are spending time with people who encourage us, support us, motivate us to be the best we can be, make us laugh, make us cry, and know how to comfort us when we are going through tough times.

And on the flip side of this, we need to make sure that we are showing these individuals that we appreciate them and love them. Take that extra moment to say the words to them while you are with them, hug them when you have the moments together, send a text during the week to let them know you are thinking about them, Facetime with them to share some laughs, call them up on the phone to just say hey, or do whatever other little piece of love appreciation action you feel fit.

Well, I told you I was going to be short and sweet this week.

Leading with love is a simple tactic and action that every single one of us can undertake in our daily lives.

There’s no excuse.

NO EXCUSE.

Yes, I’m yelling.

Well, not yelling…more like energetic and passionate word sharing. That’s what we will call it.

We are the ones that can be the hope, the light, the love, the CHANGE this world needs.

So, get out there today, tomorrow, and every day after to lead with love.

Sprinkle sunshine always.

JP!

I bring you yet another week of happy Monday greetings, friends!

As the Summer months continue to fly by, it is quite obvious that I’m not ready for the months ahead, which will include turning 34.

Nothing better than a Summer birthday…

…am I right?!

But like, also 34.

Mmmbyeee.

Anyway, enough talk about 34.

Let’s get on to this week’s post.

Shall we?

Do you have your trusty sidekick beverage with you?

At the moment, as I write this for you, I have a glass of orangeade sitting in front of me upon the coffee table.

It makes me feel like a kid at heart.

And I LOVE it.

Anyway, time to get started.

First off, let’s define a few terms that will help us stay organized and come full circle with this week’s words that you are about to read.

-Depression: A condition of general emotional dejection and withdrawal; sadness greater and more prolonged than that warranted by any objective reason.

-Anxiety: Distress or uneasiness of mind caused by fear of danger or misfortune.

-Turndown service: In the hospitality industry, turndown service refers to the practice of staff entering a guest’s room and “turning down” the bed linen of the bed in the room, preparing the bed for use. In addition, turndown service can include staff closing draperies, playing soft music, adjusting lights, etc.

Now, how am I going to tie all of these together?

Well, I can honestly say that I’m SO GLAD you asked.

I know I am not the only one who has started to see the entities of depression and anxiety creep into our vocabulary and daily lives more often these days, especially after what we all went through in 2020.

It was tough.

It sucked.

It drained a lot of emotional and physical capacity from us.

And some of us are still struggling with the effects.

And you know what?

That’s ok.

Mental health these days is so important and we need to make sure we are talking about it and not brushing it under the carpet.

Under the carpet is for dust only, not emotions and feelings that we need to make sure we are expressing freely without hate or judgment.

I’ve been so much more aware of my mental health, my mental health capacity limits, my mental health exhaustion and what causes it, and honoring the process that I personally need to make sure I continue to follow through in order to make sure I’m staying recharged and at my best ready to take on the world in all capacities as Mr. Sunshine.

For most of you, it comes as no shocker that I love to be busy.

And I mean BUSY.

This means waking up before 7am almost everyday including weekends.

This means working a part time job 10-15 hours a week, working a full-time job for 40 hours Tuesday-Saturday, being Music Director at my church, holding the position of secretary for our church council, personal training twice a week, running 3-4 miles everyday while trying to raise funds for a local nonprofit, volunteering time as either an actor or stage manager for EPAC, writing this weekly blog, and whatever other fun entities might get a spot on the calendar in the planner.

Feeling tired?

Well, WAKE UP!

Time to grab another coffee!

But among this very busy lifestyle that I love and thrive upon, I have become more aware of my limitations and listening to my body when it is exhausted.

And sometimes that means taking a nap, enjoying a weekend away from all duties, coloring in the comfort of my home, watching some Golden Girls, or hanging out with wonderful friends.

And this is where turndown service comes into play.

This past weekend, I took some time off my worn duties at Webstaurantstore and church to enjoy some time with my good friend, Abby. We enjoyed some time poolside at Woodridge Swim Club, a delicious dinner at Lombardo’s in Lancaster, and a last minute trip to McLean, Virginia where we enjoyed delicious food at Founding Farmers, a glorious stay at The Ritz-Carlton including turndown service, some over-stimulating crowd watching at MGM Resorts and Casino, and some very beautiful views and food truck burgers from CaliBurger at Great Falls Park.

It was glorious.

And it was the perfect recharge necessary to combat the mental exhaustion from the week.

As a person who is busy almost all the time, these moments are extra special because they are few and far between, so when I have the chance to experience them, I make sure to relish in every moment of them.

This past week, I also got to spend some one-on-one time with my bestie Devin that was incredibly needed for both of us. It was just very special and something I didn’t realize how much I needed until I was in the moment laughing hysterically, and catching up about everything life.

And on Tuesday night, I got to have dinner with my former roommate girls Missy, Elyse, and Marissa. It was just like old times as we enjoyed each other’s company and shared stories about each other to laugh, catch up, and reminisce. And once again, it wasn’t something I realized that I needed until I was in the moment experiencing it.

So, what’s this all to say?

All of these words that I’ve written this week for you are to say this:

Find your own version of “turndown service” and enjoy every moment of it.

Be intentional about planning your time to recharge.

Be intentional about planning moments with people you love as part of your recharge.

And remember to talk about your mental health.

Share your feelings.

Stop brushing the words of anxiety and depression under the carpet.

It’s ok to not be ok.

Sprinkle sunshine always,

JP!

Good Monday morning, folks!

Isn’t it crazy that we are in the final week of June and that we will be celebrating the start of a new month in just a few days?!

Like, are you SERIOUS right now?!

I’ve been saying it constantly, but Christmas is literally tomorrow.

But seriously the Fourth of July is tomorrow.

And that actually isn’t a joke.

That means…

FIREWORKS!

And lots and lots of social media stories playing Katy Perry’s “Firework” as background music because that is just the right thing to do.

DUH.

Anyhoo, let’s move on to this week’s post.

Just kidding.

One more side note.

I’m currently house and dog sitting and the two doggies (Winston and Porky) are snoring on the floor in front of the fireplace in their respective beds. And it is the cutest thing ever.

Okay, now on to this week’s post for real.

Quick!

Grab your morning coffee beverage!

Many of you already know; however, this year has been quite the big undertaking for me as I embarked on a year-long journey to try and run 1,310 miles (equivalent of 50 marathons) and raise $20,000 for The Conner M. Holland Foundation.

And in just 3 more days, we are officially closing the book on Month 6-also known as the halfway point.

Yes, you did read that correctly.

THE HALFWAY POINT.

It is insane to think that I have been running miles and trying to fundraise money since January 4th.

And many of you reading this post (and my weekly posts) have been a huge part of that endeavor and I can’t thank you enough for all of the continued support and love (emotionally, physically, and financially) within these past 6 months and for all of the continued support and love within those entities to come in the next 6 months.

As of this post writing (which I’m doing at 9:52pm), we currently stand at 633.8 miles clocked and $7,914 raised!

And for those who didn’t see, there is an anonymous donor who is matching donations up to a total of $1,000 from now until June 30th!

That means the halfway point of $10,000 is SO close.

WOO!

Yesterday on my run in the hot as balls heat, I took a tumble and skinned my right knee.

Literally been running since January 4th almost every single day and have never fallen.

I guess it was bound to happen.

But honestly, I made it look super graceful.

And right after I did it, I got right back up, went over to a nearby tree and started to stretch and pretending for any people who might have seen me to make it look like I had planned to do that fall.

We’ve all done that moment where we pretend to the be on the cell phone when we really are just to get out of a sticky situation…

…And I know I’m not the only one who has experienced this.

But what is the moral of the story and the positive piece of advice I am to leave you with before the end of the words I’m writing for you this week?

Well, here goes.

We always have a choice.

In every day of our lives, every minute, every second.

And when I took a tumble on the sidewalk yesterday, I had a choice.

The choice to either stay down on the ground and pout about the pain…

OR

The choice to get up and keep going.

And I of course chose the second option.

The BIG question is will YOU choose the second option?

What encourages you to make that second choice?

What drives you and keeps you going?

What gets you to keep going after falling down and skinning your knee?

Think about it.

You always have a choice.

Sprinkle sunshine always,

JP!

Hey Folks!

Can you believe that we are experiencing another Monday?!

Can you also believe that we are experiencing the end of June already?!

Doesn’t it feel like it was just yesterday when we were welcoming in the new year watching the ball from Times Square to signify the start of 2021?!

Anyhoo, in case you needed to know, the date is Monday, June 21st and we are in fact almost halfway through the year of 2021.

That means that we will be experiencing the holidays of July 4th, Labor Day, Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas like tomorrow.

Are you ready?

Because I’m certainly not.

Well, enough backstory.

Let’s get to this week’s blog post.

For anyone who has followed me on social media, is friends with me, or has experienced me in person throughout the years knows that I am someone who is on the go, go, GO!

Don’t believe me?!

Call my cell phone and listen to my voicemail because I literally say “go, go, go” in my greeting to you if I don’t answer.

I’ve always been the person with the planner JAM PACKED full with anything and everything.

And if you don’t believe me about that…just ask me to give you the visual the next time you see me because my planner is no joke.

It is even color coded.

BELIEVE IT.

It’s like the Bible for what we will call Mr. Sunshine’s morning life, afternoon life, evening life, and social life.

And along with this color-coded, jam packed calendar comes the fact that I dip my feet into a lot of different activities.

A full-time Account Manager working 40 hours per week, a part-time customer service auditor working between 10-12 hours a week, a stage manager responsible for multiple elements of an award-winning play, seeing a personal trainer twice a week, running between 3-4 miles everyday trying to raise $20,000 for a local charity…and the list goes on an on.

So I won’t continue to bore you with that.

So, what’s this all to say?

Well, before we get to that point, it’s time to take a coffee break and refill your cup if you haven’t already done so.

All set?

Great.

Let’s continue on.

Oh, and don’t forget the cream and sugar!

The topic of mental health is one that I have never really dived into personally or talked about that much in my years on this Earth; however, it is one topic that has started to become a forefront discussion for many individuals in this world (including me), especially since 2020 where we were forced to live in isolation due to a global pandemic.

And this past week, for the first time in a long time, I felt like the walls were closing in on me.

My body was screaming at me telling me I was doing too much and that it needed a break.

So, you know what?

I listened to it.

Something that I’m not always great at.

Something that I’m constantly always trying to evolve and improve upon.

I took some much-needed PTO from my full-time job, relaxed and gave myself a “brain break” from work and other obligations, and actually took a nap to rest my body—something that I haven’t done for months.

Speaking of naps, can we just talk about how GLORIOUS they are? Even if they are just for a short 20 minutes.

Absolutely glorious.

You should try it.

Do people think I’m crazy for doing so much in my life?

Yes, they do.

Do I think that I’m crazy for doing so much in my life sometimes?

Yes, I do.

But the difference is that the many hats I wear in my life are all ones that make me feel fulfilled and bring overflowing joy to my soul that I work hard to share with others.

And while it might mean that I don’t get to see some friends for an extended period of time or get to hit up the bars for that refreshing, adult cocktail, it does mean that those moments when they happen for me are even more special and thrilling.

Will I ever change or become someone who can’t be on the go, go, GO?

That is up for debate.

Actually, it is the million dollar question.

Would you believe that I’m thinking about adding another hat to the mix?

Don’t believe me, ask the dishes!

Sorry—I had to throw in some type of Disney reference.

But until that day when the question can be answered–and maybe it never will be–I implore each and everyone of you to listen to your body.

Learn from my mistakes of not always hearing it when it is screaming for that moment to slow down and rest.

And don’t forget that mental health NEEDS to be talked about.

It is not something that we should be ashamed of or feel guilty about.

It is a very real feeling in a very real world that needs some very real attention.

Until next week friends.

Sprinkle sunshine always,

JP!

Well, folks!

It is time to wish you yet another happy Monday as we creep toward the middle of June!

Can you believe it?!

We are literally just a week away from the official start of Summer and just a few weeks away from July 4th, which I was always told symbolizes the halfway mark of Summer.

Like, is that for REAL?!

2021 is FLYING by.

Like mmmbyeee.

Anyway, this week’s post will be short and sweet.

Promise.

Cross my heart.

It’s hard to believe that a year ago, we were still living in the confusion and isolation of quarantine.

And during that quarantine, I lost something in my life that I have always been passionate about.

The theater.

And this week, that all changes.

LIVE theater is back at the Ephrata Performing Arts Center and I couldn’t be more EXCITED.

Why, yes.

EXCITED is in all caps.

And what makes it even more special is that the production that is starting off the first, full official LIVE show with an audience since 2020 is Boys in the Band which ties in perfectly for pride month.

I’m having the humble opportunity stage managing this production whilst working with some of the most incredibly talented individuals as both a cast and production crew.

And these boys that are performing their hearts out with these characters of this beautifully written piece are just so incredible.

What makes them even more incredible and amazing is the fact that they have put up with my sassy queen attitude for the past month and a half during the rehearsal process.

“Learn your lines, bitches! Set your props! Get your life together.”

These are actual quotes from my mouth that these actors have heard me say.

Mr. Sunshine runs a tight ship with some rumbles of thunder, so WATCH OUT.

I promise it is all out of love though.

And I wouldn’t want it any other way. These boys are just so good.

SO GOOD.

Yes.

All caps again.

The theater is a rewarding and fulfilling outlet and passion of mine and the fact that it is starting to come back to a pre-pandemic normalcy for the most is emotional to say the least.

These boys are ready to make you laugh, cry, and tug at every single heart string in your soul.

And every night, without fail, they have done just that.

It doesn’t matter that I’ve seen it 1006839 times.

So, please make your way to Ephrata Performing Arts Center for this production.

Celebrate the arts.

Celebrate the return of LIVE theater.

Celebrate pride.

I promise you won’t be disappointed.

Boys in the Band runs June 17th-26th. Please make sure to check out ephrataperformingartscenter.com for more information about tickets and show times.

Sprinkle sunshine always,

JP!

Well, hello there folks!

It has been several weeks since I’ve presented words for you to read on a Monday; however, here we are!

A new blog post on this 7th day of June after a hiatus of about 3 weeks!

Or was it 4?

I literally can’t even keep track anymore.

Oh well.

I guess that is what happens when you get old.

Mmmbyeee.

Anyway, I won’t present you with a whole lot of words this week.

Promise.

This blog post will be one on speed…

…which means it will be QUICK.

The past month has presented me with a lot of thought-provoking questions about my life and what I’m doing with my life as a human being on this Earth.

I continue to witness polarization among people to a degree that is so disheartening that it makes me feel emotions of sadness, anger, and peril.

How we have gotten to this point in our world is beyond frustrating and rather than taking time to listen to each other and figure out common ground, we just continue to deepen the “great divide.”

During this past month, I have also done a lot of reflecting including the reading of a very eye-opening book entitled The Velvet Rage. Shout out to my Nashville life coach, Daniel Buckley for the suggestion. And quite honestly, this is a book that I would recommend for EVERYONE and ANYONE to read.

And a few aspects that this book has taught me to reflect and hone in on are the following:

1. Default to forgiveness rather than resentment
2. Contentment over approval

-Often times, in life, we want to hold grudges and regard people as an enemy rather than forgive them and just move on. I know that I am not the best at moving on from moments in my life that has caused me pain or stress and know that I have held grudges and contentment in the past.

And for what? Is it healthy? Is it worth it? The answer to all of these questions is no. In fact, the answer is a very big, fat, NO.

-In addition, I know that I have definitely done things in the past strictly for approval rather than for my own happiness. Why? Why is that an attitude that we as humans have in society?

I can’t imagine that I’m the only one who has done that. We should be doing things in life that bring joy to our lives in a genuine way…not just because we want that extra like on social media post from our friend or hip, contemporary influencer we are trying to grab the attention of.

During this last few weeks of my blog hiatus, I was reminded on more than one occasion of a song that was brought into my repertoire a few years ago during my Hope Express run for THON after graduating from Penn State.

It is a song from the Disney movie The Princess and The Frog and it talks about really looking inside our souls to figure out who we are and what we are about.

And that is the question that I ask of you this week.

Who are you?

What are you about?

Why were you put on this Earth?

Take a few moments to listen to the song.

Feel the lyrics.

Look into your soul and dig just a little deeper than you previously have to find your true calling.

Dig a Little Deeper (From “The Princess and the Frog”) – YouTube

Until next week, friends.

That’s all I’ve got for you.

Sprinkle sunshine always,

JP!

Happy Monday, everyone!

Another month has started in the year of 2021!

Isn’t it crazy?! We are officially in the fifth month of the year, which means that once again, Christmas is like tomorrow.

But like, just kidding.

In all seriousness though, Summer is tomorrow.

Actually, it felt like Summer occurred this past week because Mother Nature blessed us with some mid 80 temperatures.

I sincerely hope that you were all able to enjoy some of those rays and Vitamin D!

Anyway, welcome to another serious post this week.

First off, I can’t begin to express the amount of extreme thankfulness and gratefulness that I have in my heart for every single comment, message, and text from last week’s post. It is incredibly overwhelming and humbling to see the amount of support that I have in this world and it makes me very sad to know that there are people in this world that are going through the same struggle who do not have that level of support system around them.

It has been one week since I was called fag while running on the back country roads of Lititz.

And while I continue to move forward with my life, I have to say that moment is going to be something that sticks with me for quite some time.

Actually, it is something that is probably going to stick with me for all of eternity.

It is not something that can just be brushed under the rug.

And if you think brushing it under the rug is a possibility, I will challenge you until Kingdom come, because you are not living a reality.

And now, I ask you three very important questions.

1. Do you ever wake up in the morning and leave your house in fear?
2. Have you ever had suicidal thoughts or thoughts of hurting yourself?
3. Have you ever been made fun of or stared at because of the person you are?

And while some of you might have answered ‘yes’ to either none, one, or two of the questions above, I want you to know that I have answered ‘yes’ to all three questions throughout my 33 years on this Earth and continue to say ‘yes’ to these questions even as we live out our lives in the 21st century.

The year is 2021.

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

I live in the city of Lancaster and after last week’s incident, I have become so much more hyper-aware of my surroundings. I have a genuine fear now when I open the door to step foot outside because I, JP Welliver…Mr. Sunshine, could be the target of a hate crime or act of violence because of the person I am.

Because of the fact that I like men.

During my college days, I went through my share of thoughts about hurting myself and while I can say that those thoughts are not ones that have entered my mind since graduating back in 2010, there are people around me who have not been as lucky.

And that make me sad and emotional.

And it should make you emotional too because people are hurting/killing themselves because of who they are.

We as humans need to open up on our arms to EVERYONE regardless of who they are and offer our support and love because the word around us is f***ed up and terrifying.

Pardon my French.

People NEED us.

They NEED our love.

They NEED our kindness.

The fact that we continue to live in a world that judges us, stares at us, and mocks us because of the people we love is absolutely ridiculous and it is something that I struggle with because that was not how I was brought up to live my life.

I was taught to love all, support all, and be there for all.

Period.

No questions asked.

The moment of being called fag last week while running in my hometown where I was raised and always felt safe has made me waver and falter.

And as angry as I am at the individual who screamed that offensive language at me and as angry as I will always be, I still wish that individual a life of love and one that will allow them to open their eyes to the world of fabulous colors and diversity that lives among them.

My heart still hurts.

It always will.

And while I realize that not everyone in this world will be one who recognizes me with support because of the people I love and will always constantly try to knock me off the ladder, I will continue to do my best to be a worker of light and love throughout my daily life.

I can’t stress the entities of love and kindness enough.

I beg you as people who come back week after week to read my blog to really pause, think, and act on what is right.

Being an object of hate is something that can happen to anyone…at any given moment, including Mr. Sunshine.

Live and act with love.

Be intentional with your love and kindness to others.

And do not falter or let those around you make you stumble.

I appreciate each and every one of you for the constant support, love, and kindness that you show me day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year.

I will be on a blogging hiatus until June, so until then, please be well. And please share love and kindness intentionally.

Sprinkle sunshine always,

JP!

Happy Monday, folks!

Here we are experiencing another Monday as we enter into the last week of April.

But as we enter this final week of the fourth month, I can officially say that I’m a fully vaccinated Mr. Sunshine! Yay!

I’m so incredibly grateful and thankful for all of the volunteers that made getting my vaccine possible (and a pleasant experience) at Vaccinate Lancaster.

Typically, I like to be ahead of the game and have my blog posts written and scheduled by the end of the week; however, this week, I wasn’t motivated to write at all.

But something happened to me yesterday afternoon that got me so upset that I knew right away it was what I was going to blog about.

So, here we go.

Yesterday, April 25th…

I was spending some time at my parents having lunch after church and decided to take advantage of the beautiful weather with a 7 mile run on the back, country roads of Amish Country.

It was about 2pm in the afternoon and I was running on West Lincoln Avenue when I saw an approaching truck going a bit slower than the speed limit of 45mph that displays on the signs by the side of the road.

And as the truck got closer, the man in the passenger seat (who I would say looked no older than my age), shouted the word “fag” very loudly in my direction as my feet continued to hit the pavement.

And as I continued to run forward without looking back, I could hear the truck speed up and squeal his tires.

And while I didn’t stumble over my feet at what had just transpired and tried to keep my head held high, I felt defeated inside and started to cry as I continued to run.

And those tears were more than just tears.

They were a symbol of the fact that bigotry, hate, and prejudice are still very much alive and well in our Country…even in the small town of Lititz.

And the year is 2021.

And it is heartbreaking.

The tears dried up quite quickly as I ran back to my parents’ house because of the brisk wind, but the lasting effects of the word that had been shouted at me by that individual were very much alive and well in my mind.

Please understand that I’m not writing this post as a pity party.

In fact, it is the furthest thing from that.

What I’m actually trying to accomplish is for those of you who have blinders over your eyes to peel them off and look out your window.

Seriously.

Take a moment right now as you read this to pause and look out the window…wherever that might be in your current habitat.

Or at least take a moment later in your day to look out the window, but please make sure to take a moment to do so.

And as you gaze out that window, I ask you to look at the world around and realize that it is not perfect and far from it.

And after looking out the window and at the world, go look at yourself in the mirror.

And as you look at yourself in the mirror, take a moment to ask yourself this question:

“Am I enabling the problem or helping to end it.”

While I realize that some of you have never experienced a moment of bigotry, prejudice, or hate (and might never experience one), I need you to understand that it still exists.

Very much so.

For so many people from all different walks of life…not just gay men.

And it is a reality that I have lived in these 33 years of life more than once. More times that can be count on your fingers and toes combined.

And while I hope and pray that we will eventually live in a world where these entities do not exist, I sincerely hope and pray that you will do your best to show love and kindness to everyone you meet and to help bring an end to discrimination and all the elements of hatred that come along with it.

So, as I close out this week’s post, I share this quote that really resonated with me, especially given the moment I experienced yesterday and how I will not allow it to keep me from spreading the love and kindness that I work to spread each and every day as Mr. Sunshine.

“One who is kind is sympathetic and gentle with others. He is considerate of others’ feelings and courteous in his behavior. He has a helpful nature. Kindness pardons others’ weaknesses and faults. Kindness is extended to all — to the aged and the young, to animals, to those low of station as well as the high.” -Ezra Taft Benson

Sprinkle sunshine always,

JP!

Happy Monday, folks!

We are officially entering the last full week of April.

But like, seriously though. The time is just going way too fast.

Don’t blink, because tomorrow is Christmas.

Just kidding.

I’m being dramatic.

But, in reality, you should actually start your Christmas shopping.

Anyhoo, it is time to get on with this week’s post.

Even as I sit here and write the next sentence that you are about to read, I’m emotionally charged with sadness and my heart feels incredibly heavy.

The United States has had 45 mass shootings in the past month with 147 mass shootings recorded this year.

How does that sentence make you feel?

Read it again.

It makes me sick to the stomach.

Today is only the 109th day of the year and we have experienced 147 shootings already in the United States.

Sickening.

Quite honestly, it is hard to not feel a heavy heart. And at some moments, it can be extremely taxing and emotionally draining.

It seems like reading a story about a shooting has become part of my daily routine.

Wake up, brush my teeth, drink my coffee, eat my breakfast, read the news story about a shooting.

So, this week, I have decided to share 45 things that will hopefully allow you to recharge, rejuvenate, and stay sane with all of the shit happening in the world around us.

1. Watch your favorite TV show, even if you have seen all of the episodes a million times.
2. Make yourself an ice cream sundae.
3. Take a hot shower or bubble bath.
4. Turn your phone on DND for an hour.
5. Do a puzzle.
6. Go on a walk to clear you head.
7. Buy your favorite snack to eat.
8. Eat ice cream right from the carton.
9. Read a book.
10. Take a cat nap.
11. Turn on your favorite song and dance in your room.
12. Have a cabaret with yourself singing in the car at the top of your lungs.
13. Indulge in some retail therapy.
14. Drink a glass of wine.
15. Have a game night with your friends (I just did this the other night and it was SO fun).
16. Wrap yourself in a blanket.
17. Put on a piece of clothing right after it comes out of the dryer.
18. Text a friend or FaceTime with them.
19. Leave a generous tip for your waiter/waitress.
20. Color outside the lines.
21. Order takeout from one of your favorite restaurants.
22. Go for a run.
23. Enjoy a Tootsie pop.
24. Help an individual who is struggling to schedule an appointment for getting their Covid vaccine.
25. Pay for the person behind you in the drive-thru.
26. Buy a card to send someone via snail mail just because.
27. Write down three things you are grateful for.
28. Declutter a room in your house.
29. Give someone a hug.
30. Watch your favorite movie.
31. Hold the door open for someone.
32. Say please and thank you.
33. Smile at the stranger (even if you are behind a mask).
34. Forgive and forget.
35. Scream into your pillow. It’s actually so great.
36. Support the arts at your local theater.
37. Sleep in.
38. Donate to a charity.
39. Have a bonfire and roast marshmallows.
40. Burn a candle and meditate.
41. Exercise.
42. Get a massage.
43. Find somewhere to volunteer your time.
44. Donate some items to a local food pantry.
45. Tell someone you love and appreciate them.

Well, folks. That’s all I have for you this week. I sincerely hope you take some time to try some of the things on this list and also share with someone who you feel might could really use it.

Our world is a scary place and it doesn’t seem that the violence and hatred will end anytime soon.

So, it is up to us to keep the kindness and love alive.

Please.

Sprinkle sunshine always,

JP!

Happy Monday, folks!

Another week is officially in the books. Can you believe that we are almost halfway through April?!

The time is seriously just going way too fast.

Anyhoo, let’s get down to business.

It is currently 10:40pm on a Sunday night, which means that it is the ideal and prime time for me to be writing the words that you are currently reading.

And as I sit here writing this week’s post, I’m currently listening to pouring down rain, rumbling cracks of thunder, and watching flashes of lightning happening outside the windows of The Sunshine Cottage.

And as the candle on the coffee table burns and The Golden Girls play in the background, I think to myself that even in the world of Mr. Sunshine, there are moments that bring a few rumbles of thunder and clouds.

Anyone else have these moments of rumbles in their life?

As we continue to live in this pandemic, I can’t help but think that there is one word that has decided to creep into all of our lives as we grasp with the fact of what a “new normal” might be.

And that word that I’m talking about is this: anxiety.

That’s right.

Anxiety.

What is anxiety?

We could go around and ask everyone in our lives what they feel the definition of this word is and we could come back with 100 different definitions.

According to Dictionary.com, the word anxiety is defined as the following:

1. Distress or uneasiness of mind caused by fear of danger or misfortune
2. Earnest but tense desire; eagerness
3. A state of apprehension and psychic tension occurring in some forms of mental disorder

Anxiety.

According to the ADAA (Anxiety and Depression Association of America), here are a few quick facts and statistics about anxiety:

• Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18.1% of the population every year.
• Anxiety disorders are highly treatable, yet only 36.9% of those suffering receive treatment.
• Anxiety disorders develop from a complex set of risk factors, including genetics, brain chemistry, personality, and life events.

As someone who has been given the nickname of Mr. Sunshine (that I continue to wear proudly), I tend to believe that people around me think that the actions and word of anxiety are not something that I experience.

And, let me tell you folks, anxiety is real even in the life of Mr. Sunshine.

The year is 2021 and I have a stronger conviction and passion now more than ever to make sure that we are taking time in our lives to talk about this very word.

It is a real thing.

And it is a real thing that real people around us are experiencing.

And it is a real thing that can cause even more serious issues if it is not talked about.

So, how does one deal with anxiety, especially when they are nicknamed Mr. Sunshine?

Well, here are my personal tips and tricks.

1. Make sure to set aside time during each day to do something that brings you joy. This can be anything. For me, one of those things is running. It is a time where I get to release toxins, decompress, and clear my mind.
2. Start a journal. Being vulnerable and writing out our thoughts and feelings on a piece of paper can be an exercise of such great therapeutic relief. Try it.
3. Take time to laugh every single day. Laughter is the best medicine. It can relax us, reduce our stress, and even boost our immune system.
4. Use the support system of friends and family when you need some extra love, support, guidance, or encouragement. Reach out when needed and don’t be embarrassed if you are struggling.
5. Talk about it. You will never be able to foster a healthy environment for you (or anyone around you) if you aren’t willing to share and talk about your struggles. Be vulnerable. Be real. Be genuine.

These 5 things are just a few of the biggest entities that help me get through and cope with any anxiety that I might be feeling in life at any given moment.

And while these tips will not work for everyone since we are all created with beautiful, different unique qualities, the most important thing above all to remember is to seek professional help if you are struggling on a deep level.

Anxiety is a real word.

It is a real thing that many of us have experienced, are currently experiencing, or will experience in the future.

It is called being human.

And it’s ok if you are dealing with it.

You are not alone.

Let’s talk about it.

Sprinkle sunshine always,

JP!